Timeline

Today Miranda found out that the school she would like to attend in the fall, New England Institute of Technology in Rhode Island, has granted her accommodations to bring her cat, Autumn, to school with her. It was a surreal moment as I congratulated her on the success of her appeal to the school to address her needs. She made progress on the path she has been carving out for herself for the last several months.

If all goes as planned, Miranda will move into NEIT on September 29^th, 2023, and begin classes on October 2, 2023. The school operates its academic programs year-round, with intense eight-week terms that run nearly back-to-back-back. Miranda will begin in the Allied Health Sciences program to address the preliminary math and science courses she needs to be eligible for the program she is gunning for. A successful first semester in some core courses will mean she can transfer into the Veterinary Technician program for the winter term. She can complete the Vet. Tech. program in a year and a half if she successfully passes all her courses and attends school in their year-round offerings.

That’s not bad for a kid that didn’t have a high school (3) years ago; not much hope of graduating on time (2) years ago; and who felt lost and like a “loser” (1) year ago when she decided to take a gap year.

Three years ago…Miranda left Worcester Academy at the end of her sophomore year, at the beginning of the pandemic and in the middle of her high school career. We spent the summer searching for schools for her to attend. Her search into other private high schools was fruitless, as we all decided it didn’t make sense to pay for any school that was still doing any remote learning. School Choice options were limited due to transportation challenges. At the suggestion of a friend, we investigated Dual Enrollment. As a private school, Worcester Academy could not recommend her, so it diverted back to her home district school, Tantasqua Regional High School. They refused to recommend her for the program because their analysis of her WA credits still placed her as a sophomore, not a rising junior. I appealed to the director of the DE program at Quinsigamond Community College and my sixteen-year-old daughter who did not want to be a drop-out was allowed to enroll.

Two years ago…It was a tense and precarious start to a new academic year. She had been tested each semester the previous year as a Dual Enrollment student with the trials of remote learning. Mental health issues compounded the pressures of the pandemic and Miranda struggled to stay focused and engaged. She started her second year at QCC in a different division of the DE program. She had strict expectations and pressures to pass all her classes for two semesters to meet the requirements for finishing both her junior year and her senior year of high school in one academic year.

One year ago…Miranda was accepted as a Psychology major at Lesley College in Boston. She was also accepted into the Journalism department at Salem State College. Neither option felt like the right move for her. She couldn’t imagine starting a new school and a new program after such a rigorous previous year to complete her high school program. (Miranda got a 3.78 in her fall semester and graduated with three classes of college credit on her transcript.) Like most high school graduates, she found a summer job. Sturbridge Veterinary Hospital offered her the job as a part time receptionist during the time they interviewed her. At the end of the summer, she finally made the difficult decision to take a gap year and continue to work at the vet, despite feeling like she was missing out on the most important transition of her life. All her old friends from Tantasqua and WA were heading off to college and Miranda would still be living at home, in Sturbridge.

The veterinary field was never anything Miranda considered as a part of her path in life. She has always loved animals and makes a very special connection with them. She has owned two guinea pigs, connected immediately with our dog Jax, a half-Burnese Mountain, half-Black Lab mix, and her connection to Autumn is palpable. Working in the vet has offered her an insight into a field that is in desperate need of caregivers from all levels. There are not enough vets in this area to care for all the animals that need to be seen. The techs are constantly busy, and the wards are not far behind. As a receptionist, Miranda does not have down time where she can play on her phone or do a crossword. The office is busy and in constant motion. She has seen dogs have seizures in the waiting area, and she has had to steel herself to the sadness and pain that comes with the difficult choice clients must make to euthanize their pets. Firm as she must be about payment and pick up, her concern and compassion has never waned. Every day she has worked, Miranda has regaled us with stories of procedures, amazing animals, sweet and friendly owners, and of course, the annoying sides of any job. With each day she became more involved in her position she was finding her path.

It was late winter of 2023 when she decided that becoming a Vet. Tech. was what she wanted to do. She researched the schools, wrote her essays, completed the applications, and waited patiently to see if The Universe was working with her. NEIT conditionally accepted her into Vet. Tech. in the early summer and she has not stopped beaming ever since.

Five weeks to say goodbye…It will take every day of the next month for me to prepare to live without another one of my children while she is off growing, living, exploring, and developing into the independent person I know she can be and wants to be. I will need to not only say goodbye to Miranda when she moves into school, I will also have to learn to live without her literal shadow and companion. It is comforting that Miranda has listed me as Autumn’s emergency contact.

Nineteen years, seven months…We have travelled almost fifteen hundred miles from Plantation, FL where Miranda was born to this time in her life. I know I should be ready. I am not.